My dad and I didn’t talk for nearly two years when the divorce was officially about to come into action on the legal side. Prior to that, we barely saw each other, and it was complicated.
I still remember the first day we tried we tried to meet again. It was while I was still working at Barneys New York. Winter. We met at dinner in Koreatown. I was beyond nervou, kind of like how I was this time– for different reasons though. I saw him then, and I burst out crying. I couldn’t stop crying all throughout dinner. I was so happy ad so confused. I think my dad was too.
This weekend, there was a semblance of stability, and a bit of real, solid, long interactions of healthy emotion.
I’m happy to see our relationship developing in new ways, and in loving, healthy ways.
I can’t compare it to the past, because it is not anything like the past. The relationship I had with my dad then was nothing I wish for a child.
I am grateful to be getting back the years we lost.
This weekend was a great weekend.
I write this, because I am a living testimony of what happens when you choose radical openness and vulnerability, and you choose love and healing and looking for the ONWARDS as your targeted outcome over anything else.
Trust me on this. No two experiences are ever the same, I know :). And I will never understand fully what you went through or are going through, but I’ve been through it all in my own unique way with the pops.
I’m with you. I see you. Look at love. Explore God. I believe he is the only one who will ever understand the depths of our souls, for I believe he created them.
At some point, you just have to stop focusing on the brokenness and look at what you can start mending.
God is good.
Written on 9.25.2019